Have you ever noticed that when you feel like you’ve finally made the decision to really change something in your life that hasn’t been working for you things start looking like they’re falling apart at an exponential rate?
All the work you’ve started to do feels like a waste of time and effort, the feelings of accomplishment and finally getting somewhere begin to diminish. What comes next? You become discouraged again and feel like you’re right back in the same place that you were before. You start getting a deluge of negativity and hopelessness in your thinking and before you know it, you settle back into that old, unproductive groove, feeling trapped and distraught. Then the cycle starts again.
Well I want to say here that this merry-go-round of hell is a full-on trick of the mind! Lemme see, how can I explain what I’m saying without sounding all kinds of incoherent? I don’t know, maybe that’s how it’ll come out anyway but let’s see what happens!
What I’m getting at is harnessing the ability to pull to us exactly what we want, to move our internal dials to the precise station that’s playing all the right songs that give…us…life, all of that is up to us. Sometimes you also need to fiddle with the antennae a little for good measure but that’s not so bad (I know there’s gotta be some of you guys out there that remember analog!)
This has taken me an extremely long time to figure out and when I did it was one of those delicious moments in life that I live for. You know what I’m talking about? Those “Ohhh!!! Ok! Nowwww that makes sense!” when the thing starts to click and you can actually apply what intellectually and/or intuitively you think you know.
I only recently really started to understand how to get on the same vibration as what I want and stay there. I’ve also realized that this tuning goes for everything in life, from the way I’d like my children to go about taking care of their daily responsibilities so I don’t have to tell them for the umpteenth time to do x, y, or z, to talking with deities.
We will only get more of what we focus on! I mean, it seems so freaking simple but constantly being in the thick of our own personal missions we have in order to understand what we’re doing here on this planet and how to live our life’s purpose, things can get a little goddamned muddled sometimes!
So yeah, you’re trying to change your life and crap keeps happening that has you incredulous to the point where you’re thinking “Wait, what?! WTF just happened here??! Un-friggin-believable! Why is it that every…single…time I try even harder things get worse?!” and on and on it goes.
Well, what I’ve found to be true is that in order to actually get to what you’re going for, old shit has GOT TO GO! This can be people, possessions, ways of thinking, anything and everything that just doesn’t work in the reality you want. That’s what the Death card in tarot is all about. Old things have to what? Move! before new energies take up residence.
What we’re doing is cleaning house and when it gets going, it’s easy to get overwhelmed and confused and slip right back into the exact line of thinking, or mental and emotional vibrations, that we’re trying to get away from. We find ourselves on the same old station that’s playing everything we don’t want to hear and we’re hating it but we’re the ones that changed the damn dial back to all the stuff that’s just not doing it for us.
Once we fall back into that mindset we’re following our own lead straight back to Awful Town and we don’t even know it. When we want things to change, we tell ourselves all the things that hype us up without really being ready for not some but all of the work that goes into becoming who and what we want to be.
We tell ourselves “Yep, I’ve decided, let’s do this thing!” so somewhere inside of us we answer back: “Yeah? Great! Sounds good!” Then old energies get to moving out and we get confused about why it seems like life has started to come after us with a viciousness meant to destroy our very will to live when we were barely hanging on before. So we lose energy and focus and end up right back where we don’t want to be. Subconsciously we’re getting the message “Oh, ok! We’re here again? Sounds good!”
We keep attracting more of the same bullshit we say we’re trying to get away from. Why? Because we hit some static on the way to the music that we actually want to be dancing to and we don’t quite realize why the static is happening in the first place since we think we’re doing everything we’re supposed to be doing. Getting past that place can be disheartening af when you’re fighting as hard as you can but you’re still not landing any punches.
If that was as clear as mud, basically what I’m saying is that it makes no difference whether we do one or the other, vibe high or vibe low, because each of us is in the driver’s seat. Whatever we’re telling ourselves is exactly what we’re going to get because subconsciously we’re broadcasting with big fat neon signs “This is the thing I want!” with whatever we’re focused on mentally and emotionally.
There’s a part of us that doesn’t want to change, a part that’s terrified of change (and this is coming from a person who tends to be right at home with change!) because no matter how much we consciously say we don’t want a thing, we’ve got it programmed into us, for any number of reasons, that we need that thing to survive. It provides us some kind of comfort and protection but we don’t know why. It’s up to us to figure out why and how to dismantle this malfunctioning piece of software and make way for what we actually want to happen in our lives.
So I’m perfecting my ability to ride out the various purges and this is forever a work in progress. When I start to see I’m encountering an increase in obstacles on whatever path I’m walking, I acknowledge what’s happening and do my best to understand the process. I try to put things in perspective, pay attention to my fears and frustrations, figure out why they’ve been with me, then let them go and get back on track.
This stuff is definitely not easy and doesn’t happen quickly, at least not in my experience. I don’t have everything in my life figured out but this understanding that I’ve gotten? It’s absolutely helped me to gain a major level of control over the self-sabotage that I’ve been doing my whole life. And that right there is without a doubt one amazing feeling.