You Can Keep Your Vibration Where You Want It To Be!

Have you ever noticed that when you feel like you’ve finally made the decision to really change something in your life that hasn’t been working for you things start looking like they’re falling apart at an exponential rate?

All the work you’ve started to do feels like a waste of time and effort, the feelings of accomplishment and finally getting somewhere begin to diminish. What comes next? You become discouraged again and feel like you’re right back in the same place that you were before. You start getting a deluge of negativity and hopelessness in your thinking and before you know it, you settle back into that old, unproductive groove, feeling trapped and distraught. Then the cycle starts again.

Well I want to say here that this merry-go-round of hell is a full-on trick of the mind! Lemme see, how can I explain what I’m saying without sounding all kinds of incoherent? I don’t know, maybe that’s how it’ll come out anyway but let’s see what happens!

What I’m getting at is harnessing the ability to pull to us exactly what we want, to move our internal dials to the precise station that’s playing all the right songs that give…us…life, all of that is up to us. Sometimes you also need to fiddle with the antennae a little for good measure but that’s not so bad (I know there’s gotta be some of you guys out there that remember analog!)

This has taken me an extremely long time to figure out and when I did it was one of those delicious moments in life that I live for. You know what I’m talking about? Those “Ohhh!!! Ok! Nowwww that makes sense!” when the thing starts to click and you can actually apply what intellectually and/or intuitively you think you know.

I only recently really started to understand how to get on the same vibration as what I want and stay there. I’ve also realized that this tuning goes for everything in life, from the way I’d like my children to go about taking care of their daily responsibilities so I don’t have to tell them for the umpteenth time to do x, y, or z, to talking with deities.

We will only get more of what we focus on! I mean, it seems so freaking simple but constantly being in the thick of our own personal missions we have in order to understand what we’re doing here on this planet and how to live our life’s purpose, things can get a little goddamned muddled sometimes!

So yeah, you’re trying to change your life and crap keeps happening that has you incredulous to the point where you’re thinking “Wait, what?! WTF just happened here??! Un-friggin-believable! Why is it that every…single…time I try even harder things get worse?!” and on and on it goes.

Well, what I’ve found to be true is that in order to actually get to what you’re going for, old shit has GOT TO GO! This can be people, possessions, ways of thinking, anything and everything that just doesn’t work in the reality you want. That’s what the Death card in tarot is all about. Old things have to what? Move! before new energies take up residence.

What we’re doing is cleaning house and when it gets going, it’s easy to get overwhelmed and confused and slip right back into the exact line of thinking, or mental and emotional vibrations, that we’re trying to get away from. We find ourselves on the same old station that’s playing everything we don’t want to hear and we’re hating it but we’re the ones that changed the damn dial back to all the stuff that’s just not doing it for us.

Once we fall back into that mindset we’re following our own lead straight back to Awful Town and we don’t even know it. When we want things to change, we tell ourselves all the things that hype us up without really being ready for not some but all of the work that goes into becoming who and what we want to be.

We tell ourselves “Yep, I’ve decided, let’s do this thing!” so somewhere inside of us we answer back: “Yeah? Great! Sounds good!” Then old energies get to moving out and we get confused about why it seems like life has started to come after us with a viciousness meant to destroy our very will to live when we were barely hanging on before. So we lose energy and focus and end up right back where we don’t want to be. Subconsciously we’re getting the message “Oh, ok! We’re here again? Sounds good!”

We keep attracting more of the same bullshit we say we’re trying to get away from. Why? Because we hit some static on the way to the music that we actually want to be dancing to and we don’t quite realize why the static is happening in the first place since we think we’re doing everything we’re supposed to be doing. Getting past that place can be disheartening af when you’re fighting as hard as you can but you’re still not landing any punches.

If that was as clear as mud, basically what I’m saying is that it makes no difference whether we do one or the other, vibe high or vibe low, because each of us is in the driver’s seat. Whatever we’re telling ourselves is exactly what we’re going to get because subconsciously we’re broadcasting with big fat neon signs “This is the thing I want!” with whatever we’re focused on mentally and emotionally.

There’s a part of us that doesn’t want to change, a part that’s terrified of change (and this is coming from a person who tends to be right at home with change!) because no matter how much we consciously say we don’t want a thing, we’ve got it programmed into us, for any number of reasons, that we need that thing to survive. It provides us some kind of comfort and protection but we don’t know why. It’s up to us to figure out why and how to dismantle this malfunctioning piece of software and make way for what we actually want to happen in our lives.

So I’m perfecting my ability to ride out the various purges and this is forever a work in progress. When I start to see I’m encountering an increase in obstacles on whatever path I’m walking, I acknowledge what’s happening and do my best to understand the process. I try to put things in perspective, pay attention to my fears and frustrations, figure out why they’ve been with me, then let them go and get back on track.

This stuff is definitely not easy and doesn’t happen quickly, at least not in my experience. I don’t have everything in my life figured out but this understanding that I’ve gotten? It’s  absolutely helped me to gain a major level of control over the self-sabotage that I’ve been doing my whole life. And that right there is without a doubt one amazing feeling.

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Setting My Intentions

Until a couple of weeks ago I’d only loosely been paying attention to the lunar cycles for the past few months. I’ve had very little energy and much of the life felt zapped out of me. My level of apathy has been pretty damn high but at least I’m not at burnout level. That right there is a whole ‘nother universe of hell and I don’t ever, never, not eeeeever want to experience that again.

No, this is more like I’ve been a little, no a lot, out of step with the flow around me. I can still feel and see the magnificent symphony playing all around me, it’s just that I’ve been kind of detached from it all.

Clearly it was time for me to go back in, to realign my mind. It’s been lovely to have some good stormy weather to complement my reboot. Thunderstorms, tornadoes, hurricanes, they’ve always been beautiful to me. I know the destruction and havoc that they can cause in people’s lives isn’t something that is generally wished for. I’m talking about the energy behind those tempests.

Putting on excellent music, lighting my incense, burning my long neglected candles and getting fresh ones that were calling to me, all of these things along with various synchronicities have helped me get myself flowing again.

I’ve been trying to remember what kinds of things I used to enjoy that required me to leave my house and I thought “That’s right! I used to love to go dancing!” Well, doing a search for the places you used to love to go to and seeing that they’re mostly all defunct now is yet another unsettling way to realize just how much time has passed.

Ah well, no importa since my creative juices have been flowing in other ways. I’ve gotten back into sewing and knitting, my first batch of beer is fermenting, I’m studying herbalism again, Lenormand and Tarot are calling me back, and I’m going to make an elder flower cordial after I’m done with this post.

During these last two weeks or so I’ve felt and seen this renewed sense of, what? Maybe that the stagnation is starting to break up?

I’d love to hear how you’ve re-centered yourselves after long periods of frustration and feeling stuck. It’s really easy to feel alone out here even though we’re almost eight billion strong as a species but try to remember that you’re not. It just feels like that in the daily grind.

I Need Motivation

I’m sitting here. On the steps by the front door, willing myself to move. Today I just want to stay in bed and knit. I want to study Spanish and drink coffee while watching some Dust.

I don’t want to do anything because everything is more of the same at this point. Mood: existential crisis?! I don’t know, maybe. I’ve wondered and pondered so much around me all my life and at this point I’m struggling to give a fuck.

To be fair, I haven’t given many fucks in a while, at least not the kind and amount that are my normal. I miss having passion for things, I miss having energy, I miss, Jesus man, I don’t even know. Something I’ve never quite been able to put my finger on.

My whole life there’s been this gnawing and nothing seems to fill it. When the obsessions come and I pour myself into them, that helps. Sewing, Tarot, knitting, making beer, learning Spanish, whatever, I flood my senses with the activity and I get this energy that keeps me up all night so that I can do more of that thing. Color comes back to everything and I feel more alive.

Inevitably the cycle moves on to the next phase and the apathy sets in again. I’ve always lived in my head and have never known another way to be; hell, I don’t want to be another way. I just want to see the reason for things, the point. It’s as simple as that but not really.

Life only has the meaning that you give it. That’s why we need to constantly be aware of who we are, what we want, where we want to go, and how we’re going to get there. “Know thyself ” are some of the most important words I’ve ever come across. Knowing who I am and what I’m about is exactly how I know that without a sense of constantly moving forward, without ever seeing results that matter, nothing means anything to me.

So what’s my motivation right now? What do I need and how can I get it? How can I move past this feeling of being stuck in neutral? I don’t know the answers today but as the solutions inevitably reveal themselves to me, I know this gestation period will begin to make sense.  Thinking is my default and it’s a beautiful day to do more of it…

Where am I going?

And how am I going to get there? I’ve been asking myself these questions with maniacal urgency the last few years and still the answer has always been painfully and frustratingly elusive.

I want to do so many things and I become immobilized by the thought that I’ll never be able to do them all. All the things I want to learn and do have immense value to me and if I had my way I would spend my days pursuing every single rabbit hole that I’m even slightly interested in.

But that’s not exactly the way life works is it? At least not completely, not for everyone. We all have our responsibilities and the things and people we sacrifice that other side of green grass for. But how did we come to these conclusions? When did we decide to trap ourselves into thinking that to achieve our desires there’s a particular path we have to follow? Or worse yet, that our desires don’t matter?

I think a lot of this has to do with how large our worldview is. If you don’t know what you don’t know, how can you truly choose what’s the best path for you? Sometimes people have multiple shitty choices and get locked into thinking that’s all there is.

But we’re not alive just to pay rent and mortgages and have 70-80 hour workweeks in order to pay bills. We’re not alive to constantly experience just one kind of reality, smiling at people while you pretend you don’t feel as if all of the life has been drained out of you and nothing you do really matters. And we look into the eyes of these people around us, these people that we exchange pleasantries with every day and wonder if they feel the same crushing emptiness.

So I think I’ve finally got a direction for this blog. I’m going to talk about doing what I want to do, the steps I’m taking to get there, and everything in between. I need to be able to look back at my life and know that I didn’t let fear and stagnation stop me.

I have to live my life because I don’t want to look back with a thousand regrets. It’s taken me a long time to figure out what I want and how I want to make that happen but late is always better than never with these kinds of things, yes?